Often times it seems as if we as humans are always looking for the next best thing. Unable to just appreciate and be happy with what or who it is that we already have in our possession. This is not necessarily always a bad trait, depending on what it is pertaining to because in life you should always strive for better. However, when it comes to dating and relationships, this is not always the case. In addition, what might seem “better” is not always necessarily that.
A quote that comes to mind is, “everything that glitters, isn’t gold.” The reason I mentioned this is because far too often, people are caught up on the physical appearance of things and do not see things for what they really are. I can wrap an empty box up in the prettiest wrapping paper with a big red bow, nonetheless once you rip off that outer layer; it is still an empty box. This was stated to say, that once you get past the cute surface of a person, there is not always more to know on the inside. The sad part is some will risk being happy and loving the person they’re with, for that shiny box. I’ve been there before and many shiny boxes down the line, I got the point.
Another great quote, which deals with this issue, is, “the grass is not always greener on the other side.” This quote speaks volumes about life, love and relationships. People are so quick to throw away what they have with the idea that they are going to gain so much more from the next. A cute face, phat ass, nice body, full lips, etc. are all great features, but after all that what do you really have?
There’s a rule called the 80/20 rule, I am almost certain I’ve typed about it in a past blog, but am not positive. Any who, the 80/20 rule can be described as the following. Choosing to remain or pick the person that is giving you 80% of what you want and/or need to complete you; physical, emotional, spiritual, etc. Versus choosing the 20, which is only giving you 20% of what you want and/or need; generally fulfilling a simple aspect that your current isn’t.
I believe a big part of this is also greed and the human notion that we want what we cannot have. Well not necessarily can’t have, but have to work towards. We love a chase, but is that chase worth risking losing your current love? It is so much easier to take the time and get that 80% to 100%, by working on that 20% area that you’re having problems in. Rather than, take a chance on someone that is only 20% satisfying and has 80% of nothing to offer to you.
Hopefully, I’ve shed some light on the situation and have helped some folks out or at least enlightened. Remember, beauty fades, so if that’s what you’re chasing after, you will be running all your life. Find someone who satisfies you in every aspect. Much Love.
Its so tru to know that the physical attraction you may have in someone can last a while: however, will the PERSON make you happy. Person is short for personality and personality is a long for reality and the reality is, nobody will is perfect or everything that you'll desire. I've started over in my life and found out things about myself. Nobody can make you happier than YOU. You can bring your cravings to your reality.. instead of searching, allow someone to fall for you and you fall for them in time. Duante, you have some excellent opinions and i hope people do read what you've written and understand they need not be too fast, for their heart could crumble in disappointment. But yet, do a little soul searching and understand that a little of everything can be satisfying... don't settle for ignorance or like you said, take the ok girl or guy instead of the one you think is soooo fly but with no heart or brain to go with them. love you and love everyone.
ReplyDeletePeople are always finding ways to get what they want..from poly-amorous relationships to just keeping 2 people and cheating on one with the other just to have it all. They soon realize as they get older that the games get tired and no one wants to continue to play them or get caught in the web of deceit. Its really sad that some of them in the situation dont know any better. They dont know that its an insult to know that you alone can not be the 80/20 and or complete someone you love so much! No, they flat out tell you they'd rather from time to time dip into the pool and get others to calm sexual desires and fetishes and features that the old faithful mate can not give or do not possess.
ReplyDeleteA lot of evil things disguised not only as pretty boxes, but friends and close confidantes and smiling faces threaten relationships more and more as time progresses. It is up to the individual to find the balance for them and know when to take the good start that you have and turn it into a great finish!
**DELLA!