Wassup Readers! A subscriber of mine contacted me and asked if I could write and post an entry on cheating in reference to romantic relationships. Because I value each and every person that reads and responds to my blog, here you go.
Cheating is one of the most major causes that end relationships. Why do people cheat? From observation and even once being guilty myself, it's due to a person being greedy. Most people "want their cake and eat it to", is the most common quote associated with this dishonest act. Humans like options and choices. There are many things that can cause a person to cheat and while some of the reasons may seem valid, at the end of the day they aren't. The reason I say they aren't valid reasons for cheating is because if you had to deal with something you felt was that wrong that you needed to go out and cheat, you could have just as easy broke off the relationship and did your own thing.
Many people believe "once a cheater, always a cheater.". I don't agree with that quote, I think all people are capable of changing for the better, now whether they do or not is what one must ask them self.
Often the blame and daggers are thrown at the person cheating that's in the relationship, which a large amount should go to. But, I've always wondered why does the person who knows someone has a mate still pursue them? How do they feel knowing that they are a 2nd choice and can't even really be acknowledged. Often times the cheatee thinks that thje person will soon leave their mate to be with them, which chances are slim to none. And if in fact they do, can you honestly trust this person? They've been cheating on their last partner all this time with you, do you believe it won't happen to you? And for the cheater, can you trust this new partner when he/she was fine creeping with you while you were in a relationship. Clearly they don't value relationships between two people too strongly.
All these are things to consider. Never leave the one you love, for the one you like. Or do anything that may jeopardize your relationship and cause them to end up leaving you.
Feedback is always appreciated.
I like the topic but it contains a crucial contradiction. First you said once a cheater always a cheater is not true then you went on to say you cannot trust someone who cheated on you. I think its all a crap shoot. You do the best you can, do not judge, hold on tight and hope for the best. Life is unpredictable but you must be prepared to live with the results of you choices.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment. You're exactly right, sometimes because of me posting and writing off the top of my head, my ideas are mixed.
ReplyDeleteTo clarify, what I meant is that more often than likely, if you are messing with someone that is in a relationship and then they break up and you two get right together, chances are the same will happen to you.
I more-so believe it takes time for a person who's cheated to see the repercussions of their actions and to take time to reflect on it, to change the cheating habit in the future. I don't see that happening when you just cheated and jump in a relationship with who you cheated with.
I believe you reap what you sow. if you sow a seed of cheatn then more than likely someone is bound to cheat on you...then you get all upset becuz this person cheated on you. but there is no reason to be mad when u cheated before. if people don't want to be cheated on then they should never a sow a cheatn seed. if a person feel as though someone is cheatn on them they should confront them. Communication is key to any relationship. People need to quit being so Sssshhhhhh about the situation and open there mouth..either speak ur peace or rest in it.
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