Are You Really "In Love" or Just Infatuated?

More than often I hear people using the word "I'm in love with him/her" or "my lover" or "I love..." and this is usually after they've known the person 3-4 weeks and I always wonder how are you sure and how do you know you are in love with someone after such a short period of time? Now, I'm not trying to put a timestamp on how long it takes for someone to fall in love, but I just honestly don't understand how you know someone well enough within a month to know that you are in love with this person. What gets me even more is that when it doesn't work out, these folks generally bounce right back and move on so quickly and repeat this same process right over again.

I truly believe that a lot of people don't understand the difference between being infatuated with someone and being in love with them. They can sometimes be confusing to decipher, but there are ways to tell one from the other. Now I'm not saying that because you have been with this person for a month you are just infatuated with this person and you can't be "in love" with them. Because that's not the case, although I don't believe you're in love with them after a month either. Perhaps you "have love for them", but I doubt you are "in love" with them. Once again this is only my opinion, me personally am not quick to tell someone I love them quick. I remember denying that I loved someone when close friends of mine kept telling me I was in love with them, simply because I wasn't ready to admit it.

Infatuation is this strong emotion that makes you willing to do lots of things for a person and think about them constantly, but it's generally because you are so physically attracted to them and/or your physical sessions. But, besides the physical there is nothing there. If the person was to be burned severly and their image be altered tomorrow, would you still feel that strongly about them and want to BE WITH THEM and not just BE THERE FOR THEM. Once you're in love with someone, you are willing to go to the depths for them and be with them throughout any situation that transpires.

The word "love" in general is thrown around so loosely for some folks that I find it to be funny. I never have been one to just throw the word around for two reasons. One, I realize how powerful that word is and the emotions that it can cause for a person. Two, after seeing the movie "A thin line between love and hate", I wanted no parts of no psycho bitches! LOL. But, seriously though I just think people should evaluate their actual emotions and situation before being so quick to spit out the three words "I Love You". If this person is feeling you, they still will be, whether they hear that from you or not. Don't rush love, let it come natural because regardless of what you think, you can't make yourself love someone. And sometimes it's better off that you don't.

So with that said, think back to your prior dealings and ask yourself were you really in love with that person or were you infatuated with them or just had love for them?

Good Sex vs. Bad Sex

*cues* Salt N Pepa - Let's Talk About Sex

First and foremost, my apologies to my subscribers and readers it's been a minute since I posted. Let's just say maybe I began to get addicted to that drug I blogged about awhile ago, but I'm back. I chose to not post anything too deep tonight, and to save that entry for sometime tomorrow, but I needed to post something. This is a very fun loving topic!

So I've heard my friends and overheard others often talk about the good sex they've had and who has good sex and then I've also heard about those who have just the opposite; bad sex. I remember when I was younger I never really could decipher the difference over what was "good sex" and what was "bad sex", but surely as I got older I learned what was what for me, LOL.

I've asked my friends, what makes sex, good sex? And I've gotten many different responses, such as talking during the session, moans, positions, tightness, wetness, the actions like throwing it back, etc. The one thing many of them didn't mention is the love they have for that person. For some reason that really helps to make sex GREAT to me and plays a major role in my performance. Because if I love that person, I'm gonna try my best to please them to the best of my ability and make them know it. Whereas, if it's on some jumpoff type shyt then I am moreso there to complete my mission of getting mine and being done. Anywho, aside from the love aspect, I do agree that some of those other things I listed above help to make sex "good" sex!

Now I've also asked what can make sex, not so great. And have heard everything from the sound of voice they were moaning and talking in, odors, looseness, tightness, breath, sizes, etc. Once again I can agree with some of these as well. I'll go ahead and be honest and put it out there, I use to couldn't stand talking during sex, it was so porno like to me, LOL. It made it seem less realistic and more scripted or something. BUT, I learned that sometimes you can't help but to talk because the words just start flowing on their own and that's hot! LMAO! Nonetheless, I want to see what you'll have to say so be sure to leave a comment.

What makes good sex and what makes for bad sex to you?