*cues* Salt N Pepa - Let's Talk About Sex
First and foremost, my apologies to my subscribers and readers it's been a minute since I posted. Let's just say maybe I began to get addicted to that drug I blogged about awhile ago, but I'm back. I chose to not post anything too deep tonight, and to save that entry for sometime tomorrow, but I needed to post something. This is a very fun loving topic!
So I've heard my friends and overheard others often talk about the good sex they've had and who has good sex and then I've also heard about those who have just the opposite; bad sex. I remember when I was younger I never really could decipher the difference over what was "good sex" and what was "bad sex", but surely as I got older I learned what was what for me, LOL.
I've asked my friends, what makes sex, good sex? And I've gotten many different responses, such as talking during the session, moans, positions, tightness, wetness, the actions like throwing it back, etc. The one thing many of them didn't mention is the love they have for that person. For some reason that really helps to make sex GREAT to me and plays a major role in my performance. Because if I love that person, I'm gonna try my best to please them to the best of my ability and make them know it. Whereas, if it's on some jumpoff type shyt then I am moreso there to complete my mission of getting mine and being done. Anywho, aside from the love aspect, I do agree that some of those other things I listed above help to make sex "good" sex!
Now I've also asked what can make sex, not so great. And have heard everything from the sound of voice they were moaning and talking in, odors, looseness, tightness, breath, sizes, etc. Once again I can agree with some of these as well. I'll go ahead and be honest and put it out there, I use to couldn't stand talking during sex, it was so porno like to me, LOL. It made it seem less realistic and more scripted or something. BUT, I learned that sometimes you can't help but to talk because the words just start flowing on their own and that's hot! LMAO! Nonetheless, I want to see what you'll have to say so be sure to leave a comment.
What makes good sex and what makes for bad sex to you?
I fully agree with alot in your blog concerning what makes "good" and what makes "bad" sex. Its truely up to the beholder as to what causes their satisfaction, or if you will "floats their boat". Of particular agreement is that "making love" with someone you love is far different then "casual sex" with a stranger or acquaintance. The desire to please as you wrote and intense emotional connection I believe aid in this. As far as talking goes, if its just talk it means nothing and can be annoying, however if its a genuine cry of lust and satisfaction then it can be quite a turn-on in my opinion. Now odors are and should be a turn-off to everyone, and a sign of dis-respect to the person smelling the odor, as the culprit could of easily showered, brushed teeth or found another remedy to their odor issue. Thats my brief opinion as it relates to me.
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The difference between good sex and bad sex has a lot to do with the connection you have with the other person. Good sex is intense...bad sex is like 'going thru the motions'. And I'm not a talker...but I like when the other person talks...gotta let me know how you feel LOL
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with u "D", because myself has had my fair share of "good/bad sex". Good sex, to me is when u the vibe is mutual and everything is passionate. Bad sex, to me is when its no feeling and i wanna jus get mines, and dont care for the other prson. Talking...Hmmm, that's either here, or there.
ReplyDeleteOk. In my case, bad sex is in situation when attraction isn't there. No type of love is there. Some people have sex even though attraction isn't present. That is just a recipe for bad sex because the head is not connected to the rest of the body (If you follow what I am saying)-you just won't be able to concentrate on the person you're with. Good sex is just good when you're into the person, passion is there and all that jazz! Everyhing goes wild!
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ReplyDeleteHey D.. Honestly in my opinion there is NO such thing as "bad sex", better yet let me say i havent experienced a bad encounter yet.. Rather i was drilling or being pounded, its all been "good, no great sex".... Or maybe my sex game is just on point. But i must agree with you at first i didnt care for moaning (was so porn like) but if u feel it sometimes it comes out !! In my opinion of what makes good sex- its the bond or connection i have that person. The sexual and physical attraction. The depth of the session. But thats just brief statement of whats good sex to me ....
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